Character Praise Builds Steadier Worth
Researchers at Utrecht University found that inflated praise for achievement can actually predict lower self-esteem over time, while noticing genuine character sticks. The reframe: a child doesn't need to win to feel worthy — they need to be seen for who they already are.
Try this
Catch the Unseen Moment
Try naming character on the spot — "You noticed your friend was sad and sat with them" — instead of saving praise for report cards and trophies. Small, specific, and said like you actually saw it.
Say It Like It's Huge
Some families treat a held door or a shared crayon like a genuine headline.
But when the moment isn't a win or a loss — when nobody's grading it — do we even know what to say?
When your child does something kind and nobody's grading it, what's your go-to?
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